Happy Valentine’s Day! Wishing you a very special day, one filled with love! I thought it would be appropriate to write about one of the most important love a person can give: self-love. This was a foreign concept to me until recently. Many people do not know what self-love is or if they do know, they don’t give importance to it. Self-love is crucial for our happiness, well-being, mental health, confidence, and self-esteem. I’m no expert on self-love as I am learning more and more about it myself. According to Psychology Today, “Self-love means finding peace within ourselves - resting comfortably within the depths of our being.” I used to think self-love was just another chore. I didn’t think much of it until one of my good friends told me I need to give myself some more “me time”. I thought she was crazy, until I realized I was going crazy due to lack of “me time”.
You may be wondering what “me time” is all about. Basically, it is when you take time out of your week or even day, just to spend time for yourself, give attention to yourself, and love yourself. It can consist of going to the spa, getting a massage, hanging out by the pool, meditating, golfing, etc. anything that is enjoyable to you can be considered activities you can do during your “me time”. Self-love isn’t just about pampering yourself though; it also involves being kind and gentle to yourself. When you couldn’t spend quality time in the evening with your child due to work, don’t beat yourself over it. When you didn’t do as good as you expected to on a particular exam, don’t stress over it. When you wanted to impress your in-laws with a great cooked meal but ended up burning the food, don’t hate yourself for it. When you beat yourself up because you missed the point of a major court holding in a case assigned for class, remember next time that we all fail forward and get things wrong, it is part of the learning process. Reach out to classmates, mentors or academic support for some assurance.
Instead of taking it so hard on yourself next time, think positively! Rather than saying, “oh this will never work out” when the situation seems impossible, say, “this will work, and I will make it happen.” Rather than saying, “I’m not meant for this, there’s no way” when you’ve lost hope, say, “I have what it takes, and I will be one of the best.” Just the mere act of positive thinking will help lighten your mood and make you realize that you are doing just fine. It’s so easy to put down ourselves and see ourselves as incompetent, but every time we do that, we are taking a step back, when we should be taking a step forward. Give yourself credit for trying; give yourself the happiness you deserve; give yourself the attention you need. When you do, you find yourself to be happier, think positively, and have a hopeful outlook on life. Just know, you are priceless, and you are amazing! Love yourself and shine because no one can shine like you do!
Do you give yourself “me time”?
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